Adoption - N. J. Lindquist

The Long-Lasting Effects of Adoption in the 1940s - 1970s

A while ago, I started writing a memoir. But for someone with a degree in psychology and a life-long interest in the ways that people are unique, it wasn't long before I began to consider how much I had been shaped by my genes and how much by my adoptive parents (nature vs nurture). But then I began to wonder how much I had been impacted by the process of being adopted.

All that led me to look for books by adopted individuals, which led me to books written by mothers whose children had been taken from them either though their choice or against their wishes. 

I was deeply affected by what I read. It gave me a lot more understanding of what my birth moher went through. A lot more understanding of what my adoptive parents went through. And a lot more insight into why I am the way I am.  

Do I wish I hadn't been adopted? No. I don't regret anything that happened. But I can see how everything could have been better for everyone involved. 

Anyway, to read some of the things I discovered, check out the blogs below. 

My Short Story About a Pregnant Teen Who Has to Decide What’s Best for Her Baby
Since November is Adoption Month, I thought I'd mention a short story I wrote called "Conversations in Baby Blue." Although it's fiction,[...]
A Guest Blog I Wrote for November – Adoption Month
My Adoption Was an Answer to Prayer I was four years old when my mother told me I was adopted.[...]
A Birthmother Remembers – My Review of the Book, The House of the Broken Two
After deciding I wanted to learn more about what it was like for a woman in Canada’s prairies to be[...]
The Girls Who Went Away: Part 1 – the treatment of unwed mothers during the baby boom
When I was four years old, my mother told me I was adopted. I said something along the lines of[...]
The Girls Who Went Away, part 2 – the effects of adoption on baby boomer birth mothers
If you haven't read part 1 of this post, click here.  6. In the years from 1945 to 1973, closed[...]
Gone to an Aunt’s: Remembering Canada’s Homes for Unwed Mothers – Part 1
A couple of years ago, I had a character in one of the novels "go to her aunt’s" when she[...]
Gone to an Aunt’s: Remembering Canada’s Homes for Unwed Mothers – Part 2
If you haven’t read Part 1, please click here. Thirty years after she was a resident at a home for[...]
Gone to an Aunt’s: Remembering Canada’s Homes for Unwed Mothers – Part 3
Click here if you haven't read Part 1 or Part 2  At some point, the unwed mothers of Canada’s Baby[...]
Am I Weird? A Children’s Book Made Me Feel Better About Being Me
For most of my life, I've thought I was kind of weird. Or maybe that there was something wrong with[...]
Growing Up Adopted: An Interview with N. J. Lindquist
Last October, my daughter-in-law Elle Lindquist interviewed me about growing up as an adopted child in the years before open[...]
Can You Be Both Pro-Life and Pro-Choice?
Before we talk about whether abortion is right or wrong, we need to ask two questions: “Why do women/girls get[...]